Gender Roles

For some reason I get annoyed when people start bringing up gender roles and trying to figure out where they fit. Firstly I thought gender was not actually the sex, so even if someone defines what each gender does (or should do) they are still going to have the process of looking at each individual to see which gender they fall in. (And what limits us from having an infinite number of genders?) I find the categorization pointless at trying to find who one should be as a person. Before I had heard of gender roles I never wondered what my function in society was as a male (and I still don't). So often I feel people make presuppositions with no basis, they say to themselves "I am a woman, this must mean something special." They do end up taking different roles because they decide to conform with society's expectations but there is no law saying they should be that way. God did not give different laws to woman than he did to man. We as humans are to love our neighbors and God and both genders have that ability. I'm not saying there is not gender inequality and frankly I do not know too much about gender roles but the way I see things is that the term begs to create rights and roles based on being part of minority rather than rights based upon one's humanity and that is the basis of my frustration.