Problem solving

         Problems are going to happen. People have some sort of relationship with other people. These two things I have seen but have never really connected them. Because people have problems to overcome it bonds them closer when they work together to conquer them. Even if the two people fail at solving them, they have shared the experience of attempting to conquer. I have not fully analyzed this idea but it seems generally true and to me slightly interesting. I wonder how crucial this shared hardship experience is for any sort of relationship. I look at one of my relationships with a friend in high school and how we seemed best of buds but then once we got into college became apparent that the relationship had no substance. This confused me at the time but I might be able to link it to the fact that we talked about video games he played, classes, played chess, and that was it. Problem solving together makes the relationship more real to people or deeper. An additional example of this is my relationship with my dad; ever since I have started my business he has helped me design cards and find clients, (problem solving of sorts), and now with my car he has been there to rescue me off the freeway and find good shops to repair it while keeping me involved in the process (having me call them, and figure out which one will be the best). I'm always happy to rescue people, but it is good and unique how my dad keeps involvement; it changes the receiver's attitude from gratitude to comradeship which leads to bonding I believe. (Now it seems I could connect how in Gilgamesh and throughout many cultures and histories how comradeship is the pinnacle of the relationship people want with each other and write a paper on it, but I digress).